Helping a Partner with Vaginismus

If you have a partner who is suffering from vaginismus and you want to help, then you have come to the right place.

I understand that when your partner is going through painful sex a.k.a. vaginismus, it takes a huge toll on your relationship. One or both of the partners can start avoiding intimacy for fear of failure which ultimately affects both. At this point, it is very important for you to know that vaginismus is not incurable. Instead, with a little time and patience, your partner can overcome this seemingly impossible condition. So how is it that you can help your partner in her journey to overcome it? Here are a few things you can do to help.

• Reassure your partner that she can overcome this phase in her life. Fully believe in it to be so as well.
• Overlook her fear of intimacy and don't resent it. 
• Discuss with your partner different ways you can make her feel comfortable in an intimate scenario.
• Foreplay is the basic key to resolving this issue. Make sure you both are in the mood and she is fully relaxed.
• Encourage your partner to discuss what pleases her and makes her feel particularly good during intimacy.
• Make it a point to celebrate your partner's each and every milestone in overcoming vaginismus so that she remains motivated.
• Show genuine interest in her efforts.
• Maintain an air of ease and comfort. Working on the emotional aspect of your relationship is very crucial and will greatly affect your partner's progress in resolving vaginismus. Build trust again. Remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place and keep those good things about her in mind to keep yourself motivated and encouraged too.
• Take her to dinner, buy her flowers or do anything that she likes. The key is to rebuild your relationship from an emotional aspect while she works on the physical aspect of it.